{"id":4,"date":"2010-09-03T07:30:44","date_gmt":"2010-09-03T07:30:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/brybrary.com\/?p=4"},"modified":"2010-09-03T07:30:44","modified_gmt":"2010-09-03T07:30:44","slug":"confident-or-friendly","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/brybrary.com\/?p=4","title":{"rendered":"Confident or Friendly?"},"content":{"rendered":"<!-- Easy AdSense V2.99 -->\n<!-- Post[count: 1] -->\n<div class=\"ezAdsense adsense adsense-leadin\" style=\"float:right;margin:12px;\"><script type=\"text\/javascript\"><!--\r\ngoogle_ad_client = \"ca-pub-8511944561883183\";\r\n\/* brybrary4 *\/\r\ngoogle_ad_slot = \"1916527945\";\r\ngoogle_ad_width = 300;\r\ngoogle_ad_height = 250;\r\n\/\/-->\r\n<\/script>\r\n<script type=\"text\/javascript\"\r\nsrc=\"http:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/show_ads.js\">\r\n<\/script><\/div>\n<!-- Easy AdSense V2.99 -->\n\n<p>The other day I randomly called up an old college friend I haven&#8217;t seen for three years to hang out. We ended up going to starbux. While trying to order a coffee I couldn&#8217;t avoid but to notice the cashier was pretty cute.<br \/>\nI then precede to ask her how her day was:<\/p>\n<p>Me: Hello how was your day?<br \/>\nHer: It&#8217;s going well&#8230; Just started my shift&#8230;<br \/>\nMe: Oh, cool&#8230; So what time you get off?<br \/>\nHer: I get off around 6ish&#8230;<br \/>\nMe: Ohh&#8230;(cut off by my friend pulled me aside&#8230;)<br \/>\nMe: Okkkk&#8230;. talk to you later thanks! (btw cock blocked me for asking for her number)<br \/>\nFriend: (whisper) Are you hitting on the cashier&#8230;<br \/>\nMe: hummm&#8230;(Thinking&#8230;) I don&#8217;t think so&#8230;<\/p>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;margin: 3px;\"><script type=\"text\/javascript\"><!--\r\ngoogle_ad_client = \"pub-8511944561883183\";\r\ngoogle_alternate_color = \"FFFFFF\";\r\ngoogle_ad_width = ;\r\ngoogle_ad_height = ;\r\ngoogle_ad_format = \"_as\";\r\ngoogle_ad_type = \"text\";\r\ngoogle_ad_channel =\"\";\r\ngoogle_color_border = \"CCCCCC\";\r\ngoogle_color_link = \"000000\";\r\ngoogle_color_bg = \"#FFFFFF\";\r\ngoogle_color_text = \"333333\";\r\ngoogle_color_url = \"666666\";\r\ngoogle_ui_features = \"rc:0\";\r\n\/\/--><\/script>\r\n<script type=\"text\/javascript\"\r\n  src=\"http:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/show_ads.js\">\r\n<\/script><\/div><p>Eventually, me and my friend get into this deep conversation about our life styles and he told me I was totally different since we met in freshmen year. He got me confused wondering what was different?\u00a0 He said I am confident now and not shy anymore compare to the kid he met in freshmen year(happily smiling inside btw). But my life style hasn&#8217;t changed much since college? So now I wonder is being friendly and able to have conversion starters a promising trait of\u00a0being more confident?<\/p>\n<p>Often times when I go hang out at bars or super markets I love to strike up conversions with strangers. And luckily sometimes I do meet people that interests me&#8230; which of course I try to exchange numbers(well if she looks interested too). But the story usually goes into two predictable patterns:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Never bother to call her back(Most story ends here)<\/li>\n<li>Send her a text with her name and a smiley face, so she remembers who I am. Example nicole \ud83d\ude42 (Which btw actually works pretty well).<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>And usually when tactic 2 is implemented a phone conversation would follow&#8230; But we usually end up strangers again after a few days&#8230;.<br \/>\nSo, does that mean I am more confident compare to before or am I just friendlier and loves to have conversations with strangers?<\/p>\n<p>I do think I am a lot friendlier compare to when I first started college, but in terms of the word confidence. I believe I still have a long way to go&#8230;But at least I am a lot more open friendly and fun! Below are a few tricks I learned and practiced to be more friendly and funny:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li> Practice with strangers your not trying to impress like the old lady buying fruits.<\/li>\n<li> Who cares what others think! Just be yourself! Ask them a question.<\/li>\n<li> Talk to a guy stranger&#8230; And yes, it does sound gay(I have nothing against gay people! I have lots of gay friends! Not trying to be offensive just an expression!). But hey it works&#8230; a little bromance can turn into more confidence, because talking to a guy is easy. We are not trying to impress them! And Once we are confident talking to guy strangers change the subject to a girl stranger! (not to mention the dude might have cute girl friends)<\/li>\n<li>When a stranger talks to you talk back! It&#8217;s a open invitation for you to talk to them and practice your talking skills! Smoker example: When a girl asks you for a cigarette, don&#8217;t just give it to her and say bye&#8230; Make her stay to talk to you!<\/li>\n<li>Remember charming, humorous lines from books, sitcoms, friends where ever! Example:<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Me: How was your day?<br \/>\nHer: good.<br \/>\nMe: Just good&#8230; nothing else? even the CLIFF NOTES would be fine!<\/p>\n<p>Anyways, so if I am just more friendly compare to before how do I convert my friendliness into confidence? 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