The other day I randomly called up an old college friend I haven’t seen for three years to hang out. We ended up going to starbux. While trying to order a coffee I couldn’t avoid but to notice the cashier was pretty cute.
I then precede to ask her how her day was:

Me: Hello how was your day?
Her: It’s going well… Just started my shift…
Me: Oh, cool… So what time you get off?
Her: I get off around 6ish…
Me: Ohh…(cut off by my friend pulled me aside…)
Me: Okkkk…. talk to you later thanks! (btw cock blocked me for asking for her number)
Friend: (whisper) Are you hitting on the cashier…
Me: hummm…(Thinking…) I don’t think so…

Eventually, me and my friend get into this deep conversation about our life styles and he told me I was totally different since we met in freshmen year. He got me confused wondering what was different?  He said I am confident now and not shy anymore compare to the kid he met in freshmen year(happily smiling inside btw). But my life style hasn’t changed much since college? So now I wonder is being friendly and able to have conversion starters a promising trait of being more confident?

Often times when I go hang out at bars or super markets I love to strike up conversions with strangers. And luckily sometimes I do meet people that interests me… which of course I try to exchange numbers(well if she looks interested too). But the story usually goes into two predictable patterns:

1. Never bother to call her back(Most story ends here)
2. Send her a text with her name and a smiley face, so she remembers who I am. Example nicole 🙂 (Which btw actually works pretty well).

And usually when tactic 2 is implemented a phone conversation would follow… But we usually end up strangers again after a few days….
So, does that mean I am more confident compare to before or am I just friendlier and loves to have conversations with strangers?

I do think I am a lot friendlier compare to when I first started college, but in terms of the word confidence. I believe I still have a long way to go…But at least I am a lot more open friendly and fun! Below are a few tricks I learned and practiced to be more friendly and funny:

1. Practice with strangers your not trying to impress like the old lady buying fruits.
2. Who cares what others think! Just be yourself! Ask them a question.
3. Talk to a guy stranger… And yes, it does sound gay(I have nothing against gay people! I have lots of gay friends! Not trying to be offensive just an expression!). But hey it works… a little bromance can turn into more confidence, because talking to a guy is easy. We are not trying to impress them! And Once we are confident talking to guy strangers change the subject to a girl stranger! (not to mention the dude might have cute girl friends)
4. When a stranger talks to you talk back! It’s a open invitation for you to talk to them and practice your talking skills! Smoker example: When a girl asks you for a cigarette, don’t just give it to her and say bye… Make her stay to talk to you!
5. Remember charming, humorous lines from books, sitcoms, friends where ever! Example:

Me: How was your day?
Her: good.
Me: Just good… nothing else? even the CLIFF NOTES would be fine!

Anyways, so if I am just more friendly compare to before how do I convert my friendliness into confidence? Or does being friendly translate into being confident? What do you think?