Archive: September 3rd, 2010

Beauty and the beast…

September 3rd, 2010 · · Funny, Relationship, Uncategorized 2 comments

I believe everyone who had a childhood watched the Disney hit cartoon beauty and the beast or at least heard of it. So for a quick/brief reminder; as the title suggests, there is a beautiful girl and a ugly beast. And basically the beauty and the beast falls in love with each other, which eventually triggers a cure to the beast’s curse and magically turns him back into a handsome rich young man with a happily ever after ending! And recently in real life I have been noticing more and more of these couples with the resemblance of beauty and the beast… but of course without the new handsome rich guy.

So, Here is my dilemma… How do these couple end up together? Because, I would want to date someone at least equivalent to my looks. So are the beast daters taking one for the team, so the good looking men could be saved for team single girls? Sorry for being super shallow here, but isn’t physical attraction an important part of a relationship? And NO you(beast dater) cannot seriously tell me he looks attractive to you(Being a straight man I still know who is good looking and who is not)! So, out of confusion and curiosity I consulted a few of my close female friends who are beast daters. Surprisingly, none of them really cared about what their boyfriends looked like, all they wanted was a supportive boyfriend who can make them happy. So below are a few points I collected from my conversations with them.

List of things that seems to out weigh looks:

  1. Humorous – Makes the girl happy
  2. Supportive – Makes the girl happy
  3. Educated – Impresses the girl
  4. Confident – Impresses the girl
  5. Motivated – Impresses and makes the girl happy
  6. Baller/Rich(For gold diggers) – Not for everyone! lol

My final conclusion all of us single man should not hate the player but the game after all. Because I guess the truth is girls rarely care about what a man looks like. Looks can only travel so far in a relationship; the real attraction comes from the inner self and personalty. It’s similar to eating pesticide free grown fruit, although the fruit grown with pesticide could look better, we tend to eat the pesticide free fruit cause of its safer/better inner content. So for those who consider themselves as not attractive, should permanently stop being scared to approach pretty girls! Cause as long as you are charming in your own personal way you could be the next beauty and the beast!

Confident or Friendly?

September 3rd, 2010 · · Uncategorized No comments

The other day I randomly called up an old college friend I haven’t seen for three years to hang out. We ended up going to starbux. While trying to order a coffee I couldn’t avoid but to notice the cashier was pretty cute.
I then precede to ask her how her day was:

Me: Hello how was your day?
Her: It’s going well… Just started my shift…
Me: Oh, cool… So what time you get off?
Her: I get off around 6ish…
Me: Ohh…(cut off by my friend pulled me aside…)
Me: Okkkk…. talk to you later thanks! (btw cock blocked me for asking for her number)
Friend: (whisper) Are you hitting on the cashier…
Me: hummm…(Thinking…) I don’t think so…

Eventually, me and my friend get into this deep conversation about our life styles and he told me I was totally different since we met in freshmen year. He got me confused wondering what was different?  He said I am confident now and not shy anymore compare to the kid he met in freshmen year(happily smiling inside btw). But my life style hasn’t changed much since college? So now I wonder is being friendly and able to have conversion starters a promising trait of being more confident?

Often times when I go hang out at bars or super markets I love to strike up conversions with strangers. And luckily sometimes I do meet people that interests me… which of course I try to exchange numbers(well if she looks interested too). But the story usually goes into two predictable patterns:

  1. Never bother to call her back(Most story ends here)
  2. Send her a text with her name and a smiley face, so she remembers who I am. Example nicole 🙂 (Which btw actually works pretty well).

And usually when tactic 2 is implemented a phone conversation would follow… But we usually end up strangers again after a few days….
So, does that mean I am more confident compare to before or am I just friendlier and loves to have conversations with strangers?

I do think I am a lot friendlier compare to when I first started college, but in terms of the word confidence. I believe I still have a long way to go…But at least I am a lot more open friendly and fun! Below are a few tricks I learned and practiced to be more friendly and funny:

  1. Practice with strangers your not trying to impress like the old lady buying fruits.
  2. Who cares what others think! Just be yourself! Ask them a question.
  3. Talk to a guy stranger… And yes, it does sound gay(I have nothing against gay people! I have lots of gay friends! Not trying to be offensive just an expression!). But hey it works… a little bromance can turn into more confidence, because talking to a guy is easy. We are not trying to impress them! And Once we are confident talking to guy strangers change the subject to a girl stranger! (not to mention the dude might have cute girl friends)
  4. When a stranger talks to you talk back! It’s a open invitation for you to talk to them and practice your talking skills! Smoker example: When a girl asks you for a cigarette, don’t just give it to her and say bye… Make her stay to talk to you!
  5. Remember charming, humorous lines from books, sitcoms, friends where ever! Example:

Me: How was your day?
Her: good.
Me: Just good… nothing else? even the CLIFF NOTES would be fine!

Anyways, so if I am just more friendly compare to before how do I convert my friendliness into confidence? Or does being friendly translate into being confident? What do you think?